I don’t have that much advice for people who are dealing with drifting apart from friends and significant others. It’s something that really sucks because sometimes you can feel it happening but you can’t control it. You can’t stop yourself or them from changing, it just happens sometimes which can be difficult to understand and accept. The truth is, we just have to deal with it the best way we can. I know that’s vague and pretty awful advice but it’s the best I can come up with for the most part. I think it just varies person to person and also depending on how you deal and accept things in your life. If your more of the quiet friend who goes along with everything, it can be hard to recover once that happens with someone you’re close with.
As cliché as it may be, you’ll find other friends and lovers in your life. Once one leaves, another one is sure to come along somewhere down the line. I think it’s best to let yourself get over it and not jump into something right after. Obviously, this only applies in terms of relationships, but don’t form friendships just to spite the friend that you lost. Everything in life is a process and it’s up to us how to go about things, how long it should take to recover, etc. These are rather basic tips for you but I think it can be nice to be reminded. Sometimes I also get caught up in everything going on that I don’t stop and think about these things when something like that happens to me.
I think that we can all can feel when we start to drift away from people we care about. If it’s a friend, they won’t just text you and ask to hangout, they might seem distant or uninterested when you hangout, and some other smaller signs. In a relationship, the signs are pretty much along the same lines: they don’t text you as much, seem distant, uninterested, and it seems like they just don’t like spending time with you like they used to. Additionally: they are no longer sending you sweet text messages or calling you baby or whatever else they normally do. If this starts to happen I don’t think you should freak out. Yes, it’s an upsetting scenario but it’s also something that just happens. I know I’ve repeated this a lot but there’s really no other way to phrase it. I think it is what it is and we just have to roll with the punches and accept the way things turn out.
Every relationship has that initial “Nothing can go wrong” moment. You’re both really into each other and you feel like that won’t ever change. There’s a lot of romance, you love talking to them every second of the day, and everything is perfect. Unfortunately, that period ends for everyone. But it’s up to the couple involved whether or not they beat this patch that all couples go through. This is the point where you see the strength in your relationship. If it’s strong enough to get through, it will beat it. I’m going to attempt to expand upon when this period ends and how to keep things going.
Obviously, the period ends at different times depending on the couple. It could be anywhere from just a few weeks to a couple of months. Typically, it’s two or three weeks but this also depends on how long your relationships typically last. For example, if you’re someone who’s had a lot of long term relationship, the honeymoon period where everything is great may last longer since it’s not a new concept to you. No matter when it happens, one major tips that I have is: it’s okay to fight. However, I think it’s important not to pick fight after fight because that’s the point when the relationship becomes dominated by fighting which is something no one wants.
If this is someone that you care about and are willing to change your ways for, it’s more likely that it will work. Being honest with one another is also important. One of the biggest tips to remember is to have some distance as well. Don’t be around your significant other 24/7 or even text them all the time. Speaking from personal experience, talking to them all the time can be too much sometimes because you get sick of each other. No one can keep that up all the time without getting exhausted. It doesn’t matter how perfect you think the person it is, it won’t work. Someone is bound to feel suffocated so it’s best to give some space but not too much either. In theory, it might sound difficult to find a balance and there’s definitely some difficult moments, but it will be best for your relationship in the end.
Take this advice or don’t, whatever you choose is completely up to you. I think these are some honest tips that will certainly help guide you to having a healthy and sincere relationship. Relationship advice works for some people while others find no use of it at all so take it as you please. I just hope these tips make sense to you readers! Thank you for reading!