End Of The Month & Introducing March

The month has been all about love and the different types that we find. I didn’t get too personal here but I hope that my recommendations are helpful to you! I’ll talk more about March and what all to expect tomorrow. But I just wanted to share some of my ideas here now. March has a whole week of spring break which I’ll talk about a lot in my posts. The main theme is just going to be education. Some important things to learn, guides, lists, all that sort of stuff. There will also be a lot of recommendations that I find helpful and hopefully you will enjoy.

Most Romantic Love Letters

Love letters are such a rare romance these days. Back in the day, it was a beautiful way to express your feelings for another person that you can’t currently be with. Now, we express how we feel using text messages which isn’t nearly as personal. I’m going to do things a little differently here, I’m going to link to these famous love letter posts on different websites. I didn’t see the point in making my own list since I would include the same exact ones that Time did and I also Brain Pickings collection of letters as well! Without further ado, I hope that you enjoy these heartwarming and endearing love letters. Maybe it’ll even inspire you to give up the cell phones and pick up the pencil and writing some romantic letters of your own! A girl can dream right?

Time’s Famous Love Letters Article 

Brain Picking’s Frida Kahlo Letter to Diego Rivera

Georgia O’Keeffe Love Letters

Love Letters From Famous People

Glamour’s List of Most Romantic Love Letters

Huffington Post Handwritten Letters

 

 

Best Love Quotes

What can be better than love quotes? Not all that many things. These are my favorite quotes about the messiness and madness that comes with being in love.

1. “You don’t love somebody because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” – Jodi Picoult

2. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Stephen Chbosky

3. “As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” – John Green

4.  “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” – Pablo Neruda

5. “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.” – Neil Gaiman

6. “I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough” – Nicholas Sparks

7. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” – Robert Fulghum

8. “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” – C.S. Lewis

9. “Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone’s bad qualities because they somehow complete you.” – Sarah Dessen

10. “I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Best Modern Love Columns

The New York Time’s Modern Love Column is one of my absolute favorites. It tells a variety of different stories depending on the column that particular day. Some of them are sad stories about married and single life. Some are happy stories that feel you with some type of joy. These are my personal favorite ones that are a mixture of the two.

1. Sometimes, It’s Not You

This is an interesting piece about being a 30-year-old unmarried woman who really wants to be married. She confesses that she’s not denying marriage for any particular reason. Instead, she craves this and dreams of it really happening. “What’s wrong with me? Plenty. But that was never the point.” This ending statement is really beautiful and charming.  I love this so much.

2. The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap 

An endearing tale about finding love later on in life. It’s neither of their first marriages but they find comfort and love with one another which is all that you can hope for.

3. How I Got to Here

This story is so beautifully written that you can’t help but fall in love with it. You can feel how honest and raw the story is. It’s about a divorced woman who has kids and her adventures in dating one particular lifelong bachelor. It has a few twists which make it unique and keep you holding on until the last word.

4. Age Is No Obstacle to Love, or Adventure

Another tale about being older and finding love. I like this one as well because of how personal it is. It’s a new personal experience told from their own point of view. I really enjoy this one.

5. Good Enough? That’s Great 

This is a more unique one since it’s not one personal love story as usual. Instead, it’s from the point of view of Modern Love’s editor Daniel Jones. He talks about how the two questions asked by all the readers that submit a story into Modern Love is either “How do I find love?” or “How do I get it back?” He explores these two and also reveals more about the particular stories told and the answers received by them.

6. A Life Plan For Two, Followed By One

This story is such a charming look at the crushes that we have. I love her writing style and just the general way she tells this story. This was the first Modern Love article I ever read and it’s safe to say it got me hooked!

Other Forms of Love

So today, I’m going to quickly breakdown the types of love that are out there.

Self-love, romantic, friendship, parent-child, and much more.

Sometimes, we might confuse love with some other emotion. When it comes down to it, we know deep down what’s love and what it isn’t. It’s some kind of human instinct that people have. Basically, we all know what this is so you don’t need me to tell you.

Self-love is the one that I talked about just the other day. It’s an important thing but also a rare thing. We don’t love ourselves as much as we should. I’m not going to get into the whole thing because it’ll start to just sound straight up preachy. So I’m just going to say that this is something we need and hopefully continue to get better about as we go through life.

Friendship is a really strong form of love. It’s something that you count on. We always love and depend upon our friends whenever we need them the most. It’s just nice to know that someone has our backs and that’s why friendship is so incredible.

The parent-child love is another form of love that is a bond that isn’t easily broken. I know that there are exceptions that I don’t want to get into, but I’ve always heard that there’s just something about having your own child. You become so attached to the little baby that you helped make. And most people have that natural instinct to protect them, love, and care for them. I’m thankful to have those kind of parents that provide unconditional love and support for me.

There’s other type of loves: the romantic one is really obvious. It’s the one that’s probably subject to change the most. Obviously, that differs from person to person but that’s what I’ve found from personal experience. Romantic love is a whirlwind and it can be nice to feel wanted by that person for however long it happens to last.

Whatever love it just so happens to be, my advice is to just hang on to it and be grateful for it. Don’t take any second for granted.

Spotlight On: Jordan Catalano

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Jordan Catalano from My So-Called Life was a total dreamboat. Yes, he had the looks part down but there wasn’t all that much depth too him. Jordan wasn’t exactly the sharpest crayon in the crayon box. I always felt sorry for Brian but I always wanted Angela to end up with Jordan simply because Brian got on my nerves. You got to admit, annoying or not, Brian certainly treated her with a hell a lot more respect than Jordan ever did.

The majority of Jordan’s appeal comes from his looks so I’m not even going to try to deny it. He has learning problems which set him back and frustrate him. He doesn’t want people to think he’s stupid but he doesn’t try to stop them. Instead, he basically just struggles in silence. He’s lucky to have Brian help him out with his schoolwork and with getting Angela back even though he’s not appreciative of that at all.

The reason why it really doesn’t matter that Jordan is so well liked because of his looks is because that’s what a lot of teen girls like. Our first crush may not be on the most intellectual guy. I can’t speak on behalf of all girls but this is what I’ve personally found in my own life and in those closest to me. We’re drawn to the popular angsty teen guy because that’s part of who we want to be. We may be a really good girl who’s never done anything dangerous in her whole life but we don’t let that side show. We dream of rebelling with the hot James Dean type. He rebels against his surroundings and that draws the girl in.

Angela maintains her fascination with Jordan throughout the entire first and only season. This is more than just a crush for Angela – Jordan is everything to her. Is this the right decision? Well, it is to Angela and that’s all that really matters at the end of the day since she’s the one forced to live with her choices. Jordan screws up big time – he sleeps with Angela’s best friend. He does this mostly due to the fact that Angela won’t put out and her friend does after the both had been drinking a lot. Setting the plots and storylines and aside and looking at strictly the facts, Jordan is screwed up. And Angela is okay with that and so therefore we’re okay with that too.

Loving Yourself and Stuff

One of the most important forms of love that I haven’t mentioned yet is loving yourself. This is where everything really starts. It’s also by far the most difficult form of love. Both guys and girls struggle with self esteem from a fairly young age. Some may believe that guys don’t have the same kind of self esteem issues as girls which can be true to an extent considering the fact that such pressure is placed on girls from the time they reach kindergarten for the majority of their life. Guys don’t have the same exact degree of what they should look like. I do think that guys struggle with it because they don’t like who they are if they’ve ever been rejected or simply because of their own stereotypes.

Regardless of what sex you are, we can all agree that loving yourself is hard for us all. The trick I use to think about loving myself is thinking about yourself as a little girl or boy. This is a trick that Rae’s therapist in the British teen drama My Mad Fat Diary used. Basically, she had major weight problems for most of her life and she ended up binging and cutting which led to her staying in a mental hospital for a summer. She continues to meet with this therapist and her struggles are continuous but he tries to urge her to think of her childhood self. He tells her to close her eyes and picture that little girl and tell her that she’s fat. She does that, and then she ends up telling her that she’s beautiful and perfect and she shouldn’t let what others might think about her get to her. I think this is an effective way of thinking because who wants to be mean to a little kid? You think of your younger self, all hopeful and positive and you don’t want that person to change.

There’s a number of different ways we can change our ways of thinking. Self-image is a really major thing. It sets the focus for everything and causes you to think either good or bad things about yourself. It also helps to see yourself through the eyes of somebody else. Maybe somebody like a parent or grandparent that’s always told you how beautiful and what a good person you are. If they see the good that you can’t, just pretend that you’re them seeing you the way that they do. This is really tricky and I get that, but I think it might sort of work depending on who you are.