I touched on this topic a little bit when I brought up having a crush on someone. Often, our crushes may or may not be on someone a lot older than us and part of the fact we like them is because we know it can’t happen but we fantasize about the possibility anyways. This topic is different in some ways due to the fact that crushes are sometimes not always acted on or the person may sadly not feel the same way. This is going to focus on why or why not age differences matter. Hopefully I touch on the pros and cons enough in a way that doesn’t sound too repetitive or preachy!
First things first, age differences do matter. But it depends mostly on what age you are. It’s not a big deal if you’re old enough to make decisions for yourself and live out on your own. You may be asking yourself: “What does that mean? I’m 13 and I make decisions myself because I’m mature for my age.” Regardless of your maturity level, dating someone who is 18 or 19 when you’re 12 or 13 is just a bad situation to be in. There’s a reason why a guy that much older is going for a girl so much younger, and it has nothing to do with you. It may have something to do with his lack of maturity or something of the like. But at such a young age, it’s not going to end well with someone so much older?
Why won’t it go well?
You may not be able to meet his needs physically. That has nothing to do with you, you may just not be fully developed and you’re still learning and discovering who you are. He’s doing the same thing in a different way. He’s also in a whole different level intellectually and you can’t just be yourself. It can be hard to reach for something to talk about when you have such a big age gap between the two of you. This may not always be the case, but it pretty much typically ends up just the two of you making out in his car. If you’d rather really get to know the person you’re dating, you’re not ready to date someone that different from you.
Another big reason is that you should be acting your age. It doesn’t matter if you don’t want to act like the kids you’re age, enjoy your age while it’s still here. Take advantage of that and I think it’s important to experience friends when you’re still in middle school. Dating a senior in high school or a college aged guy when you’re in eighth grade or even a freshman in high school isn’t the best idea because you should be focusing on hanging out with friends and doing the things you love. I’m so glad I waited until I was a lot older to start dating so I was able to enjoy my adolescents as much as possible. I suggest you do the same! You have plenty of time to date whoever you want, cross that bridge when you get there but enjoy the place you’re in your life right now.